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Nothing to post for this area as yet.  In the meantime here is an extract from one of my favorite books "The Power of Now".

From Addictive To Enlightened Relationships

Can we change an addictive relationship into a true one? Yes. Being present and intensifying your presence by taking your attention ever more deeply into the Now: Whether you are living alone or with a partner this remains the key. For love to flourish the light of your presence needs to be strong enough so that you no longer get taken over by the thinker or the pain-body and mistake them for who you are. To know yourself as the Being underneath the thinker the stillness underneath the mental noise the love and joy underneath the pain is freedom salvation enlightenment. To disidentify from the pain-body is to bring presence into the pain and thus transmute it. To disidentify from thinking is to be the silent watcher of your thoughts and behavior especially the repetitive patterns of your mind and the roles played by the ego. If you stop investing it with "selfness the mind loses its compulsive quality which basically is the compulsion to judge and so to resist what is which creates conflict drama and new pain. In fact the moment that judgment stops through acceptance of what is you are free of the mind. You have made room for love for joy for peace. First you stop judging yourself; then you stop judging your partner. The greatest catalyst for change in a relationship is complete acceptance of your partner as he or she is without needing to judge or change them in any way. That immediately takes you beyond ego. All mind games and all addictive clinging are then over. There are no victims and no perpetrators anymore no accuser and accused. This is also the end of all codependency of being drawn into somebody else's unconscious pattern and thereby enabling it to continue. You will then either separate - in love - or move ever more deeply into the Now together - into Being. Can it be that simple? Yes it is that simple. Love is a state of Being. Your love is not outside; it is deep within you. You can never lose it and it cannot leave you. It is not dependent on some other body some external form. In the stillness of your presence you can feel your own formless and timeless reality as the unmanifested life that animates your physical form. You can then feel the same life deep within every other human and every other creature. You look beyond the veil of form and separation. This is the realization of oneness. This is love. What is God? The eternal One Life underneath all the forms of life. What is love? To feel the presence of that One Life deep within yourself and within all creatures. To be it. Therefore all love is the love of God. Love is not selective just as the light of the sun is not selective. It does not make one person special. It is not exclusive. Exclusivity is not the love of God but the love" of ego. However the intensity with which true love is felt can vary. There may be one person who reflects your love back to you more clearly and more intensely than others and if that person feels the same toward you it can be said that you are in a love relationship with him or her. The bond that connects you with that person is the same bond that connects you with the person sitting next to you on a bus or with a bird a tree a flower. Only the degree of intensity with which it is felt differs. Even in an otherwise addictive relationship there may be moments when something more real shines through something beyond your mutual addictive needs. These are moments when both your and your partner's mind briefly subside and the pain-body is temporarily in a dormant state. This may sometimes happen during physical intimacy or when you are both witnessing the miracle of childbirth or in the presence of death or when one of you is seriously ill - anything that renders the mind powerless. When this happens your Being which is usually buried underneath the mind becomes revealed and it is this that makes true communication possible. True communication is communion - the realization of oneness which is love. Usually this is quickly lost again unless you are able to stay present enough to keep out the mind and its old patterns. As soon as the mind and mind identification return you are no longer yourself but a mental image of yourself and you start playing games and roles again to get your ego needs met. You are a human mind again pretending to be a human being interacting with another mind playing a drama called "love." Although brief glimpses are possible love cannot flourish unless you are permanently free of mind identification and your presence is intense enough to have dissolved the pain-body - or you can at least remain present as the watcher. The pain-body cannot then take you over and so become destructive of love.

Relationships As Spiritual Practice

As the egoic mode of consciousness and all the social political and economic structures that it created enter the final stage of collapse the relationships between men and women reflect the deep state of crisis in which humanity now finds itself. As humans have become increasingly identified with their mind most relationships are not rooted in Being and so turn into a source of pain and become dominated by problems and conflict. Millions are now living alone or as single parents unable to establish an intimate relationship or unwilling to repeat the insane drama of past relationships. Others go from one relationship to another from one pleasure-and-pain cycle to another in search of the elusive goal of fulfillment through union with the opposite energy polarity. Still others compromise and continue to be together in a dysfunctional relationship in which negativity prevails for the sake of the children or security through force of habit fear of being alone or some other mutually "beneficial" arrangement or even through the unconscious addiction to the excitement of emotional drama and pain. However every crisis represents not only danger but also opportunity. If relationships energize and magnify egoic mind patterns and activate the pain-body as they do at this time why not accept this fact rather than try to escape from it? Why not cooperate with it instead of avoiding relationships or continuing to pursue the phantom of an ideal partner as an answer to your problems or a means of feeling fulfilled? The opportunity that is concealed within every crisis does not manifest until all the facts of any given situation are acknowledged and fully accepted. As long as you deny them as long as you try to escape from them or wish that things were different the window of opportunity does not open up and you remain trapped inside that situation which will remain the same or deteriorate further. With the acknowledgment and acceptance of the facts also comes a degree of freedom from them. For example when you know there is disharmony and you hold that "knowing through your knowing a new factor has come in and the disharmony cannot remain unchanged. When you know you are not at peace your knowing creates a still space that surrounds your nonpeace in a loving and tender embrace and then transmutes your nonpeace into peace. As far as inner transformation is concerned there is nothing you can do about it. You cannot transform yourself and you certainly cannot transform your partner or anybody else. All you can do is create a space for transformation to happen for grace and love to enter. So whenever your relationship is not working whenever it brings out the madness" in you and in your partner be glad. What was unconscious is being brought up to the light. It is an opportunity for salvation. Every moment hold the knowing of that moment particularly of your inner state. If there is anger know that there is anger. If there is jealousy defensiveness the urge to argue the need to be right an inner child demanding love and attention or emotional pain of any kind - whatever it is know the reality of that moment and hold the knowing. The relationship then becomes your sadhana your spiritual practice. If you observe unconscious behavior in your partner hold it in the loving embrace of your knowing so that you won't react. Unconsciousness and knowing cannot coexist for long - even if the knowing is only in the other person and not in the one who is acting out the unconsciousness. The energy form that lies behind hostility and attack finds the presence of love absolutely intolerable. If you react at all to your partner's unconsciousness you become unconscious yourself. But if you then remember to know your reaction nothing is lost. Humanity is under great pressure to evolve because it is our only chance of survival as a race. This will affect every aspect of your life and close relationships in particular. Never before have relationships been as problematic and conflict ridden as they are now. As you may have noticed they are not here to make you happy or fulfilled. If you continue to pursue the goal of salvation through a relationship you will be disillusioned again and again. But if you accept that the relationship is here to make you conscious instead of happy then the relationship will offer you salvation and you will be aligning yourself with the higher consciousness that wants to be born into this world. For those who hold on to the old patterns there will be increasing pain violence confusion and madness.

I suppose that it takes two to make a relationship into a spiritual practice as you suggest. For example my partner is still acting out his old patterns of jealousy and control. I have pointed this out many times but he is unable to see it.

How many people does it take to make your life into a spiritual practice? Never mind if your partner will not cooperate. Sanity - consciousness - can only come into this world through you. You do not need to wait for the world to become sane or for somebody else to become conscious before you can be enlightened. You may wait forever. Do not accuse each other of being unconscious. The moment you start to argue you have identified with a mental position and are now defending not only that position but also your sense of self. The ego is in charge. You have become unconscious. At times it may be appropriate to point out certain aspects of your partner's behavior. If you are very alert very present you can do so without ego involvement - without blaming accusing or making the other wrong. When your partner behaves unconsciously relinquish all judgment. Judgment is either to confuse someone's unconscious behavior with who they are or to project your own unconsciousness onto another person and mistake that for who they are. To relinquish judgment does not mean that you do not recognize dysfunction and unconsciousness when you see it. It means "being the knowing" rather than "being the reaction'' and the judge. You will then either be totally free of reaction or you may react and still be the knowing the space in which the reaction is watched and allowed to be. Instead of fighting the darkness you bring in the light. Instead of reacting to delusion you see the delusion yet at the same time look through it. Being the knowing creates a clear space of loving presence that allows all things and all people to be as they are. No greater catalyst for transformation exists. If you practice this your partner cannot stay with you and remain unconscious. If you both agree that the relationship will be your spiritual practice so much the better. You can then express your thoughts and feelings to each other as soon as they occur or as soon as a reaction comes up so that you do not create a time gap in which an unexpressed or unacknowledged emotion or grievance can fester and grow. Learn to give expression to what you feel without blaming. Learn to listen to your partner in an open nondefensive way. Give your partner space for expressing himself or herself. Be present. Accusing defending attacking - all those patterns that are designed to strengthen or protect the ego or to get its needs met will then become redundant. Giving space to others - and to yourself - is vital. Love cannot flourish without it. When you have removed the two factors that are destructive of relationships: When the pain-body has been transmuted and you are no longer identified with mind and mental positions and if your partner has done the same you will experience the bliss of the flowering of relationship. Instead of mirroring to each other your pain and your unconsciousness instead of satisfying your mutual addictive ego needs you will reflect back to each other the love that you feel deep within the love that comes with the realization of your oneness with all that is. This is the love that has no opposite. If your partner is still identified with the mind and the pain-body while you are already free this will represent a major challenge - not to you but to your partner. It is not easy to live with an enlightened person or rather it is so easy that the ego finds it extremely threatening. Remember that the ego needs problems conflict and "enemies" to strengthen the sense of separateness on which its identity depends. The unenlightened partner's mind will be deeply frustrated because its fixed positions are not resisted which means they will become shaky and weak and there is even the "danger" that they may collapse altogether resulting in loss of self. The pain-body is demanding feedback and not getting it. The need for argument drama and conflict is not being met. But beware: Some people who are unresponsive withdrawn insensitive or cut off from their feelings may think and try to convince others that they are enlightened or at least that there is "nothing wrong" with them and everything wrong with their partner. Men tend to do that more than women. They may see their female partners as irrational or emotional. But if you can feel your emotions you are not far from the radiant inner body just underneath. If you are mainly in your head the distance is much greater and you need to bring consciousness into the emotional body before you can reach the inner body. If there isn't an emanation of love and joy complete presence and openness toward all beings then it is not enlightenment. Another indicator is how a person behaves in difficult or challenging situations or when things "go wrong." If your "enlightenment" is egoic self-delusion then life will soon give you a challenge that will bring out your unconsciousness in whatever form - as fear anger defensiveness judgment depression and so on. If you are in a relationship many of your challenges will come through your partner. For example a woman may be challenged by an unresponsive male partner who lives almost entirely in his head. She will be challenged by his inability to hear her to give her attention and space to be which is due to his lack of presence. The absence of love in the relationship which is usually more keenly felt by a woman than a man will trigger the woman's pain-body and through it she will attack her partner - blame criticize make wrong and so on. This in turn now becomes his challenge. To defend himself against her pain-body's attack which he sees as totally unwarranted he will become even more deeply entrenched in his mental positions as he justifies defends himself or counterattacks. Eventually this may activate his own pain-body. When both partners have thus been taken over a level of deep unconsciousness has been reached of emotional violence savage attack and counterattack. It will not subside until both painbodies have replenished themselves and then enter the dormant stage. Until the next time. This is only one of an endless number of possible scenarios. Many volumes have been written and many more could be written about the ways in which unconsciousness is brought out in male-female relationships. But as I said earlier once you understand the root of the dysfunction you do not need to explore its countless manifestations. Let's briefly look again at the scenario I have just described. Every challenge that it contains is actually a disguised opportunity for salvation. At every stage of the unfolding dysfunctional process freedom from unconsciousness is possible. For example the woman's hostility could become a signal for the man to come out of his mind-identified state awaken into the Now become present - instead of becoming even more identified with his mind even more unconscious. Instead of "being" the pain-body the woman could be the knowing that watches the emotional pain in herself thus accessing the power of the Now and initiating the transmutation of the pain. This would remove the compulsive and automatic outward projection of it. She could then express her feelings to her partner. There is no guarantee of course that he will listen but it gives him a good chance to become present and certainly breaks the insane cycle of the involuntary acting out of old mind patterns. If the woman misses that opportunity the man could watch his own mental-emotional reaction to her pain his own defensiveness rather than being the reaction. He could then watch his own pain-body being triggered and thus bring consciousness into his emotions. In this way a clear and still space of pure awareness would come into being - the knowing the silent witness the watcher. This awareness does not deny the pain and yet is beyond it. It allows the pain to be and yet transmutes it at the same time. It accepts everything and transforms everything. A door would have opened up for her through which she could easily join him in that space. If you are consistently or at least predominantly present in your relationship this will be the greatest challenge for your partner. They will not be able to tolerate your presence for very long and stay unconscious. If they are ready they will walk through the door that you opened for them and join you in that state. If they are not you will separate like oil and water. The light is too painful for someone who wants to remain in darkness.

Clairvoyance Scottish Borders

"We plunged into the jungle and had walked on for about an hour without much success when Cameron who happened to be next to me stopped suddenly turned pale as death and pointing straight before him cried in accents of horror:

"'See! see! merciful heaven look there!'

"'Where? what? what is it?' we all shouted confusedly as we rushed up to him and looked round in expectation of encountering a tiger- a cobra- we hardly knew what but assuredly something terrible since it had been sufficient to cause such evident emotion in our usually self-contained comrade. But neither tiger nor cobra was visible - nothing but Cameron pointing with ghastly haggard face and staring eyeballs at something we could not see.

"'Cameron! Cameron!' cried I seizing his arm 'for heaven's sake speak! What is the matter?'

"Scarcely were the words out of my mouth when a low but very peculiar sound struck on my ear and Cameron dropping his pointing hand said in a hoarse [Page 129] strained voice 'There! you heard it? Thank God it's over!' and fell to the ground insensible.

"There was a momentary confusion while we unfastened his collar and I dashed in his face some water which I fortunately had in my flask while another tried to pour brandy between his clenched teeth; and under cover of it I whispered to the man next to me (one of our greatest sceptics by the way) Beauchamp did you hear anything?'

'Why yes ' he replied ' a curious sound very; a sort of crash or rattle far away in the distance yet very distinct; if the thing were not utterly impossible I could have sworn it was the rattle of musketry'.

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